tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post7400453959904324512..comments2024-03-25T21:23:31.516+05:30Comments on A Little Hope... A Little Happiness: ... because I wasn't born FemaleGazalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-18862005053852312032016-11-11T00:30:54.460+05:302016-11-11T00:30:54.460+05:30Gazal please call me 7376606757Gazal please call me 7376606757Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03731024556119185700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-57374416788105356652016-06-14T05:42:12.715+05:302016-06-14T05:42:12.715+05:30i appreciate your passion for winning desired make...i appreciate your passion for winning desired makeoverशर्ली जकारिया SHERLY ZAKARIYAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10465695782587911259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-89697805573414510132015-03-10T11:59:56.687+05:302015-03-10T11:59:56.687+05:30PLZ help me 4 solving my problem n sugest me what ...PLZ help me 4 solving my problem n sugest me what i doAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05001854681914725353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-34198645259372226402015-03-10T11:46:53.545+05:302015-03-10T11:46:53.545+05:30plz tell me about surgryplz tell me about surgryAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05001854681914725353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-70681823056151404492014-10-19T16:09:57.284+05:302014-10-19T16:09:57.284+05:30Hi Gazal,
From today's episode of Satyamev J...Hi Gazal, <br /><br />From today's episode of Satyamev Jayate, I came to know that the IT company you have mentioned here is Infosys. <br /> You would be proud to know that Infy belives in inclusivity and LGBT are as welcome in workplace as any one else.<br /><br />May be you should visit Infy and talk to the employees here. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-32961543345879198602013-09-27T02:16:50.603+05:302013-09-27T02:16:50.603+05:30Hie would like to know about what kind of SRS you...Hie would like to know about what kind of SRS you went through is it Regular or Sigmoid Colon Vaginoplasty.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-41566653779394296432011-09-13T16:15:46.138+05:302011-09-13T16:15:46.138+05:30Hi Gazal ,
Its a beautiful blog. I am a 30 years...Hi Gazal , <br /><br />Its a beautiful blog. I am a 30 years old male and wanting to undergo gender reassignment procedure under proper counselling and support, please let me know if you could help me in getting to the right people / dr's . It would be a great help . <br /><br />ankita5sxn@gmail.comAnkitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13308377091990042900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-89908676134753797162011-07-21T20:02:38.274+05:302011-07-21T20:02:38.274+05:30Dear Gazal,
Just came across your blog while brow...Dear Gazal,<br /><br />Just came across your blog while browsing the Internet.<br /><br /><br />Thanks for a heart warming series of personal posts(not just this) in your blog. Here is hoping that you march ahead in life with all the courage and convictions needed, and let the march be in flying colours!<br /><br /><br />From the look, it seems like I was in MNIT in your times, 2003 pass-out here. Quite frankly I am taken aback.<br /><br /><br />All the best!<br />GovindGovindhttp://personals.ac.upc.edu/govind/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-81901887910487674162010-10-30T16:59:27.767+05:302010-10-30T16:59:27.767+05:30Hi Vipul,
Nice to hear from you. Vibhuti sir shar...Hi Vipul,<br /><br />Nice to hear from you. Vibhuti sir shares my story with students every year, I think, but from this year's batch, I've heard from only you. Thanks for all the wonderful things you've said about me. :)<br /><br />I stay and work in Bombay now.<br /><br />Take care. All the best!Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-17831261622618559032010-07-30T09:49:22.862+05:302010-07-30T09:49:22.862+05:30Hi..
Gazal, am Vipul 1\2009 batch passout ffrom MN...Hi..<br />Gazal, am Vipul 1\2009 batch passout ffrom MNIT, currently preparing for civil services in Delhi.<br /> heard avout u from VIBHUTI Sir..Ur story is really amazing, wonderful, revolutionary n bold...I dont have any appropriate words in my dictionary. I just want to know ur whereabouts.Vipulnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-23114051756449139922010-04-03T20:22:12.347+05:302010-04-03T20:22:12.347+05:30ShemaleJasmin - Please stop spamming my blog!ShemaleJasmin - Please stop spamming my blog!Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-53339279184393745482010-01-27T08:13:30.748+05:302010-01-27T08:13:30.748+05:30Hello Jonathan, thanks for writing to me and shari...Hello Jonathan, thanks for writing to me and sharing your anguish and frustration. I completely understand and relate to all your emotions. I have experienced them first-hand, and once in a blue moon, I still experience them. But what we need to get Jonathan is that these feelings and thoughts are futile. What we have is what we have… and that is objective reality. <br /><br />Firstly, if there is a God and He purposely chose to give us these problems, then knowing the nature of God, we must understand that He must have done it for some reason. Everybody in the world has some problem to deal with, He gave us this because perhaps He knew that we have the strength and courage it takes, to deal with it, or maybe He wanted to test us on what we can make of our lives despite these problems. He tests EVERYONE; this is probably our test, and we will be successful in this test when we stop rejecting and start loving our own selves. It is a fact that you and me have ridiculed and demeaned our SELF for years never stopping to realize that it is the same self which has the courage to live such a hard life. Let’s acknowledge ourselves Jonathan for being who we are because we, really, are extraordinary.<br /><br />Now if there is no God (which is quite probable actually), then there is no point in being angry at Him or anybody else. We’re born with a situation and we have to deal with it – period. Now, either we can deal with it by cursing our lives everyday, or we can deal with it, loving and nurturing our self everyday. It might seem tough and it will be to start with, but trust me, it is only when we tread the path of self-love will the world transform. It doesn’t happen the other way round.<br /><br />As far as body hair etc is concerned, you have medical solutions to it now – like laser hair removal. And don’t forget that plenty of women also suffer from what is known as hirsutism and have very hairy bodies. There are all types of men and women in the world, Jonathan. Why only look at the ones that make you lower your self-worth? And if you want to cry, please go ahead and cry; nobody can stop you. They can judge you, yes, but what the heck? Are you going to live your life for ‘them’ or for ‘yourself’?Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-35732502772236706852010-01-20T19:25:25.179+05:302010-01-20T19:25:25.179+05:30Hello this is jonathan from Great Britain here onc...Hello this is jonathan from Great Britain here once again and I am still angry with god. In all my 40 years still cannot understand why god made men grow beards which they require to shave every day whereas women stay fresh faced throughout life <br />Men grow thick black horrible hair mostly all over their body which they are required to leave there but woman grow really fine hair on their legs that they shave once in a blue moon. Women show and are more emotional than men are cry more often. I hate being a man and i am really angry with godjonathannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-40534706985097540542010-01-20T14:20:02.525+05:302010-01-20T14:20:02.525+05:30My name is Jonathan and am 40 year old and in all ...My name is Jonathan and am 40 year old and in all that 40 years think it's gods fault and blame him for not making me who i believe i should have been and the female that i believe that i should have beenjonathannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-87610000696946955112009-12-01T10:57:52.160+05:302009-12-01T10:57:52.160+05:30Anonymous2 – First of all, please read a book call...Anonymous2 – First of all, please read a book called ‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrnes. It’s phenomenal! What you really need to get is that you don’t have to sacrifise anything to be happy. You can have everything you want if you really believe in it and stay positive towards it. <br /><br />It is a wrong notion propagated in the world that being selfish is bad, so anybody who is being selfish ends up feeling guilty. What we forget is that man’s inherent nature is selfishness. Whatever anybody does in this world is, at the end of the day, a selfish act. Your parents brought you into this world – it was a selfish act. They did it because they wanted to procreate and have a child. They gave you education, facilities, comfort to the best of their ability – selfish act. They did it because they loved you and you belonged to them, so it was a matter of happiness and pride for their own SELF to see you prosper. Now please don’t confuse this. Yes, they did all this so you could have a better life, but the most basic reason was their own sense of fulfillment. [And that’s a perfectly valid and beautiful reason. I’m not saying their being selfish is wrong or immoral. I’m just stating a fact, and the fact is that that is the right-est reason for them to invest in you – their OWN happiness]<br /><br />Coming to you, yes, they’re your parents and you love them. But your foremost duty in this world is towards your own happiness. Your happiness does not HAVE to mean that your parents’ happiness would be sacrificed. It may be, or it may not be. But in either case, you owe yourself happiness because it is your RIGHT to be happy. Don’t be pressurized by arguments like – your parents did so much for you, and you’re doing this to them. Firstly, please get it that your parents did whatever they did, for their own selves. Secondly, you’re not doing anything TO THEM. You’re just doing something for your own happiness. If they or the world wants to misconstrue it as you’re being a bad child, then it is not your problem. Thirdly, the initial few steps are always the toughest – for you and for them, but with time, when they see you’re happy, and given that you would have constantly tried to be there for them and be in communication with them, ice will begin to thaw. It always does. My mother was very unhappy with my decision initially, and she was worried about the society and the people for the longest time, but today, when she sees how happy I am and how well I’m managing myself, she feels proud and talks about me to others as well. <br /><br />At the end of the day, our parents want a happy child in us. Sooner or later, they will come around. Don’t let the fear of the initial reactions and pressures stop you. You might come across as heartless to them, but it is in your hands to prove them wrong. Be in communication with them, come what may. Discuss the issue with them maturely, and basically, keep them WITH you in thought and in action.<br /><br />And no, you’re not a hypocrite. You’re just dealing with one of humanity’s most complex and tough problems. You’re extraordinary! It really takes extraordinary courage and strength to live with what transpeople go through. So never NEVER look down upon yourself. Always be proud of who you are, because an ordinary person would never have been able to be in your shoes.<br /><br />As for God, what is important is for you to love yourself first, everything else comes later. Even God!Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-52225241767432731992009-11-30T17:20:42.189+05:302009-11-30T17:20:42.189+05:30My future decision will lot depend on your reply.....My future decision will lot depend on your reply...I'm going through lot of difficulty...and pain...denial...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-47540175288208172032009-11-28T13:36:05.604+05:302009-11-28T13:36:05.604+05:30Hello Gazal, I have been following your blog to ge...Hello Gazal, I have been following your blog to get inspiration and solace of reading your articles...about the issues tormenting my life... I hope I too can accept and live to be myself...<br />But being a person having to handle so many responsibilities taken to head since childhood...and sensing well others feelings about "feeling like a girl in a boy's body" acting to be one you are not...is really painful...In fear of rejection or knowing well the nature of the friends & parents I could never come out to change their mind...and never let this face of mine to the best of my well-wishers and friends...With each day passing in pain...knowing well that God won't work miracles for me...not able to leave the responsibilities and the people whom I'm responsible for... Not wanting to lose myself...for all these...not able to give my best in my job...Unable to run away...not want to end up with late transition of highly possible rejection...I am going through lot of pain...in my heart...I wish I had a friend like you having a beautiful heart...I wish you be my friend...I wish I be MYSELF...<br /><br />Sorry if I sounded confusing...but just wanted to share my heart...with somebody understanding...<br /><br />One thing that is troubling me so much...Am I being so selfish to runaway to be accepted by the society for who I am...for the sake of my little happiness of being a woman do I have to sacrifice others'?at the same time do I have to suffer to be selfless...Is it just the change of body I want? I'm ready to sacrifice my promising career to live a simple life if accepted and acknowledged for my true self...but should I be or not...I hope you understand and help me with this state of mind I'm struggling with... With lot of free time available in my job...I'm not able to runaway from myself...at the same time can't be with friends as what I am not...Am I hypocrate?...may be...I know God always loves me no matter what I am...but will He still love me if I have the opportunity to choose to be selfish or selfless...Will he be happy with my decision?...may be I'll be left alone in the wilderness...may be I'll runaway from this world altogether...Whats life after all meant to be...<br /><br />Prefer to be anonymous...even here...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-80894462561389282932009-03-19T11:33:00.000+05:302009-03-19T11:33:00.000+05:30Sriharsha - I'm very touched by your words and you...Sriharsha - I'm very touched by your words and your courage. It may seem to you that it took very little courage to be yourself, but from where I see it, this comment, in itself, is a symbol of courage. Very few people in this world live a life true to themselves without a feeling of guilt or shame for an identity that is truly their birthright. You are one of those few brave people. <BR/><BR/>No doubt, your family has a huge role in giving you the emotional support which is indispensable on such a journey, and I believe that any family capable of selfless love for their child will be understanding and accommodating of his/her problems, irrespective of the generation gap. But at the same time, it takes a mature sensible sensitive responsible and brave person to make them able to see that his/her side of the world may be a little different from theirs, but it is genuine and rightful all the same. Congratulations on being that person... More POWER to you and your family and friends!<BR/><BR/>And yes, I'm so glad you like my writing... Thanks for being generous in complimenting! :-)Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-57931546195235670262009-03-19T03:24:00.000+05:302009-03-19T03:24:00.000+05:30You write beautifully. For the record, I'm a cross...You write beautifully. For the record, I'm a crossdresser. My family and friends (atleast those who have still remained friends) are well aware of my dressing. It took very little courage to be myself, but I have my family to thank for that. They aren't always supportive but they've never been dismissive. And they've made me wonder if perhaps the so-called conservative older generation is actually more liberal than my own generation. So many of my prejudices fell by the wayside as I opened out to them my feelings and frustrations.<BR/>I dont really know why I'm telling you all this. I guess I just want to tell you that I really admire the fact that you have come out so publically. I'm sorry if I'm rambling. <BR/>Your post made an excellent read. Please accept my congratulations and do keep writing.Sriharsha Salagramahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07021770573111590379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-20217527829426420182009-03-06T18:27:00.000+05:302009-03-06T18:27:00.000+05:30Tony - Life is all about some not-so-beautiful and...Tony - Life is all about some not-so-beautiful and other very beautiful coincidences :-)<BR/><BR/>Thank you so very much for your good wishes... I'm very touched. May your journey be blessed too! Take care...Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-4609015282683721132009-02-14T10:22:00.000+05:302009-02-14T10:22:00.000+05:30Ironic that you started the blog on my birthday......Ironic that you started the blog on my birthday...I feel just as you do although I'm much older. Thanks for putting my feelings into words. Good luck as the woman you should have always been.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-86823709080480685312009-01-17T13:49:00.000+05:302009-01-17T13:49:00.000+05:30Anonymous - Thank you so much! All the very Best t...Anonymous - Thank you so much! All the very Best to you too! :-)Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-53241093610626555072009-01-13T17:21:00.000+05:302009-01-13T17:21:00.000+05:30you are a push for girls like us who are under clo...you are a push for girls like us who are under closet.u really rock!!!have a wonderful womenhood.enjoy ur womenhood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-77587708139450697252008-11-18T11:41:00.000+05:302008-11-18T11:41:00.000+05:30Hi Alex! You're the first person to comment on my ...Hi Alex! You're the first person to comment on my blog, so thanks for that! :-)<BR/><BR/>Also, thanks for the compliment on my writing. This particular piece was written over several days and underwent many rounds of editing, for obvious reasons, but yes, at the end of it all, it was very satisfying.<BR/><BR/>I plan to write a post about my friends and well-wishers as soon as I get some time, so hopefully, I'll answer your question in that. And I won't mind at all to be introduced to your friends. The more awareness is generated about such human issues, the better.<BR/><BR/>Take care... And All the Best for the exams! :-)Gazalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580985348214758912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4958546573707029655.post-38287781283452349582008-11-13T21:35:00.000+05:302008-11-13T21:35:00.000+05:30Hello GazalQuite strange a life , not easily compr...Hello Gazal<BR/>Quite strange a life , not easily comprehended by mortals like me.Got to know about you from Vibhuti Shekhawat Sir (Humanities-MNIT).An interesting journey so far.Would love to read more about you though i have no plans of following your footsteps.<BR/><BR/>Moreover you write well.The above post was so smooth & had a sense of flow(our end terms starting next Monday-still I could sit through & read the whole post).<BR/><BR/>I would also like to know how your MNIT friends & your pre Gazal well wishers deal with you now.If you dont mind it would be my pleasure to introduce you among my blogger friends as well & may be write a post on you.<BR/><BR/>Alexalxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591780230036934151noreply@blogger.com